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Glandular fever #7

Posted in Family life, Glandular fever, Running with tags , , , on May 10, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

Having been well on the road to recovery these past few weeks I was hoping that I’d seen the worst of glandular fever (GF) off, however it has come back (or a relapse) this past week. My neck glands are sore/swollen, feeling generally ‘yucky’ and my stomach is playing musical ‘tunes’ all day! Trying to see what caused it, it looks like increased stress although I have been keeping stress levels down as much as possible. Trouble is however much you try to occupy your thoughts elsewhere, they soon come back to any issues troubling you and this in turn seems to have an adverse affect on GF.

I am determined this won’t set me back too much and I am keeping up my daily vitamins (B’s and D are the key ones for GF), although sadly my return to running is on hold again. I will get out and have a run soon though, that’s a positive to keep me focused on riding this GF relapse out.

There really does need to be more awareness made of GF and how it can have long lasting impacts on people, albeit at varying levels.

Author interview – Calvin Wade

Posted in Authors, Books, FA Cup, Family life, Football with tags , , , , , on April 23, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

I first came across author Clavin Wade after reading his very enjoyable ‘Another Saturday & Sweet F.A’, where he follows a team from the very start of the FA Cup right through to the FA Cup final. He has since  written two more books covering the FA Trophy and FA Vase. If that wasn’t enough he has also written a series of fiction books! You can find out more about his books on his Amazon page.

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What inspired you to start writing and how did you manage to get your writing noticed

From the age of about 17 or 18, I was always writing things that I never finished and then one day, in 2006 (by which time I was 35) I was listening to Radio 5 Live and they were wanting listeners to write 5 minute monologues with a World Cup theme for Johnny Vegas, Sheridan Smith or Kwame Kwei-Armah from Casualty. I thought I could write a pretty funny one for Johnny Vegas so I wrote it flat out in about fifteen minutes and sent it off. Luckily the BBC liked it and it was the first entry to air with Johnny Vegas performing it. It was played on the first day of the World Cup and then again on a Christmas Day special. It was called ‘I Hate Football’ and it was about Johnny Vegas’ character hating football but then falling in love with a football mad lady who had a life sized poster of Wayne Rooney above their bed and every night he had to lift her up so she could kiss his fourth metatarsal better.

From that very small taste of success, I thought I could write a book so spent about three years writing a very long novel called ‘Forever Is Over‘. Initially, I just badgered friends and friends of friends to buy it and then word of mouth led to the Irish novelist Cathy Kelly hearing about it and she put me in touch with the directors of a London literacy agency called Curtis Brown. They ended up dropping me fairly quickly (as they were dealing with proper literary stars like Jojo Moyes) but they passed on some invaluable advice including to get my book on to Kindle as soon as possible and that’s when the hundreds of sales became tens of thousands of sales (unfortunately it never became hundreds of thousands or millions)!

Who would you say are authors you admire and why?

I have always liked writers who can tell a great tale without necessarily having to confuse me with long words. When I was in my twenties I loved John Irving’s books (I still do) and then writers like Nick Hornby and Tony Parsons came along when I was in my thirties and I found their stuff very readable. More recently I’ve really enjoyed Matthew Quick’s ‘The Silver Linings Play Book’.

You have written a number of fiction books. Which do you find easier to write, non-fiction or fiction?

I find non-fiction a million times easier to write than fiction! As a child I always kept a diary which was probably quite unusual for a boy. My non-fiction is probably just an extension of that. Grown up diary writing with a footballing theme. With fiction, I really need to be in the mood to write it and have to think hard about what direction I want things to go in and who would say what and why. With non-fiction, everyone else creates the events for me and I just write about them. I think I have probably overdone the footballing books now though and if I write another non-fiction book it will be horse racing or cricket.

How did  you meet up with Alan Oliver?

It was pure fate. I had decided to go to every round of the FA Cup and after the draw was made decided to start at West Didsbury & Chorlton v Abbey Hey. There were two reasons for this, firstly because I used to live in both West Didsbury & Chorlton as a student and secondly, because the winners were due to play Burscough, a team I had briefly played for. Alan had also decided to do every round that season and as a Mancunian had also decided to start at West Didsbury & Chorlton. 24 hours before the game, I read something on WD&C’s website about Alan so contacted him, we met up at the first game and have been mates since. Alan is a proper ‘groundhopper’ whilst I am just a football fan.

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Your books are very open about your personal life….

It’s very natural for me to be candid and I think the hardest bit is to hold back a little to avoid upsetting other people who may not be as candid as me. My wife, for example, is always telling me off for letting everyone know our business good or bad! My wife is, in many ways, a lot more private than I am, so I have to bear that in mind.

Highs and lows of Everton’s current season…

The highs from a general perspective has been Koeman turning around the gradual depressing slide under Roberto Martinez and returning to being a Top 7 side. Hopefully (even if Lukaku and Barkley go) we can build further on it next season. Seamus Coleman was having a great season which was a high but then his broken leg on international duty was the real low.

Who would  you like Everton to sign?

He has his critics but I think Joe Hart is a far better keeper than any of the four keepers on Merseyside at the moment so if we could afford him, I would like Hart. I would also like us to further strengthen the spine of the side, we will need a centre back (as Jags can’t go on forever), a central defensive midfielder (as the same applies to Gareth Barry) and a centre forward (as Lukaku wants to move on and I think there will be a bid to tempt him this summer).

Do you think non-League is undergoing a resurgence?

Non-League crowds remain healthy helped by a lot of people being priced out of Premier League fixtures. Personally I found the FA Trophy campaign just as enjoyable as the FA Cup and enjoy going to watch the likes of Southport, Chorley or North Ferriby United almost as much as watching Everton. In the North West though, it has been disappointing to see Southport, Burscough and Skelmersdale United all going through very difficult times.

Other Footy Stuff...

My eldest son is now an under 18 at Rochdale so I enjoy watching him (and my other son) play most of all. Tomorrow (I’m writing this on Friday 21st April) I am off down to Shrewsbury to watch Shrewsbury v Rochdale (u18s) which will be great. Whilst mentioning Rochdale, I’ve probably seen their first team six or seven times this season and enjoy the family feel they still manage to retain there. They also manage to punch above their weight so I’ve particularly enjoyed seeing them surprise a number of sides at Spotland. I am excited about next season as it will be my son’s last season in the Academy and I am hoping he can push on and earn himself a professional contract.

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Glandular fever #6

Posted in Family life, Glandular fever, Stoke City FC with tags , , on March 7, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

Week 24 in the Glandular Fever (GF) House! Well if my poor sense of humour is coming back then I must be getting back to some sort of normality 🙂

In the past few weeks have had a few relapses where I have felt really ill with GF, however as I now know what is coming I know how to deal with it a bit better. It is about pushing yourself but within limits as it can make you more ill. Good advice here on the Patient forum. Knowing that fine balance takes some time and although I am still fatigued/exhausted at the end of each day I take heart in the fact I have done a little more or achieved a goal I set e.g. going to my first gig last weekend since last summer.

Having good support from loved ones, family and friends is a big boost as well. GF is a very strange illness in that medicines can’t help it, just a good balance of vitamins, healthy food (with the odd cake 🙂 ) and rest helps. Unfortunately some people with GF can develop chronic fatigue syndrome/ME (NHS Direct puts it as high as 1 in 10) and that requires a whole different series of medical and practical steps. My then girlfriend, now wife, helped me push through the barrier if you like to prevent this happening to me which was a real possibility back in November last year. Take control of GF and not let it control you, not easy believe you me but doable.

I am keeping positive, trying to keep the stress low (stress is one of the biggest triggers in GF and it reoccurring ) and enjoying/appreciating everyday things in life more.

 

Walk All Over Cancer fundraising

Posted in Family life, Fundraising, News with tags , , , on February 14, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

As I continue to recover from glandular fever I am joining my wife Andrea in her Walk All Over Cancer fundraising. Basically you pledge to walk 10,000 steps per day during the whole of March. Based on the average person’s stride it’s 5 miles (or 8 km) and you should have clocked up 150 miles by the end of the month – about the distance from London to Manchester. Easy?! Well considering back in November I couldn’t walk more than five minutes without being exhausted this seems a perfect way to get my fitness back, tell GF to jog on and most importantly raise funds for a worthy cause.

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Any donations much appreciated and even if you can just spread the word about the event, Cancer Research or provide a word of encouragement, it all counts and is gratefully received.

https://fundraise.cancerresearchuk.org/page/team-aj

Glandular fever #4

Posted in Family life, Glandular fever with tags , on January 17, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

After my busiest weekend yet since having glandular fever (GF) today and yesterday GF came back. However, I am managing it better and although my tongue feels horrible and has ulcers on it and my neck glands are up, plus good old wind is there, I still feel better than I would have done back in November. To be fair back in November I could hardly get to the end of the garden and back.

The hardest part now is doing enough but not too much, and the fact I am not used to being ill this long, nor are my family and loved ones used to this either. It is a strange illness in that not many visible signs can be seen, unless someone sees you every day they won’t see much change either when you start to recover.

I am still taking my daily vitamins and Echinacea plus walking for at least twenty minutes a day. You have to make and adapt your own routine as it affects each person differently, almost like GF pings around your glands and body organs seeing what ‘fun’ and havoc it can have!

I also keep a list of good moments in my Joy List. Fear not though I am not turning into some tree hugger 🙂

Enjoy yourselves and take time out to appreciate things.

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Get running :)

Posted in Family life, Running with tags , , , on January 10, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

The BBC have a good article on how to get running – http://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/get-inspired/26777663

and then you can find a local running club or event here at Run Together https://runtogether.co.uk/

Personally I would highly recommend the Park Run series of 5K runs that take place all over the UK on a Saturday morning.

https://www.parkrun.org.uk/

I can’t wait to get back to running once my glandular fever is cleared 🙂

Glandular fever #3

Posted in Family life, Glandular fever with tags , , on January 6, 2017 by The Rock 'N' Roll Oatcake

Interesting older feature on singer Ali Campbell of UB40 fame who had GF and said he felt like a ninety year old –

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1357622/UB40-frontman-Ali-Campbell-road-glandular-fever.html

I can relate to that as now on the anniversary of fifteen weeks with GF I can now get out and about at a pace slightly above ‘stop’! From the outside people may not see much unless they see you day to day and can spot when you enter your exhausted state. I am currently easing back into work doing a 5-6 hour day WFH. I make sure I have regular breaks and have a wander at midday.

I am seeing how my body copes with the extra push each day, so far had one really bad evening this week when it came back and I felt like collapsing in a heap. I do get warning signs as my tongue gets irritated, including little ulcers on it,  my left hand side throat glands show red and I you feel generally unwell.Seems silly to be chuffed at walking for ten minutes without ill affects when back in September I was happily ding 5k Park Run’s with no after affects.

I have been very lucky having such a supportive partner who has encouraged me to keep pushing on walking and exercise once I have reached a comfortable plateau. Also keeping an eye on what I am eating as I lost nearly a stone and was concerned I wasn’t putting much weight back on back in November time. Some of it is back now, although not as heavy as I did weigh and I am not complaining about that 🙂

For those with GF and seeing no improvement in sight, do keep a positive look, which believe you me is difficult, and try to alleviate stress as much as possible. One thing GF thrives on is stress. I have been using the Paul McKenna book and download calming session. I was a tad cynical of these previously but it seems to work and may be worth a go for some.